Two lines on a positive pregnancy test can change your life. You are suddenly faced with massive decisions and must figure out who you’ll share the news with and how.
Sharing your heart with your family can be challenging. On one hand, it can feel easier and safer to keep your thoughts to yourself. On the other hand, receiving support could be worth the risks of telling.
Before you break the news, visit Pathways Clinic for free-of-charge pregnancy testing and an ultrasound to confirm your pregnancy results. You will learn how far along you are and if your pregnancy is progressing normally.
Your appointment will provide key information before you talk with your family and insights into your available options and next steps.
Breaking the Pregnancy News: Where to Start
Once you’ve confirmed your pregnancy, it’s time to prepare for your conversation. First, decide who you want to tell. Then, determine if you’ll break the news with your family as a group or with individual members.
Only you can make these decisions based on your relationships within your family. If you are ever concerned about safety, bringing a supportive friend can add protection. You may even consider telling them over a phone call if you think in-person communication is too risky.
Next, think about the time and place. Choose a time when your family can give their undivided attention and not feel rushed to go to work or a commitment. While there’s never a perfect time, try to pick the best time available.
If you feel safe telling your family in person, select a comfortable location. Consider sharing the news in a living room or area with couches and recliners. If your family has their deepest conversations around the dinner table, telling them over a meal could be best.
Having the Conversation
Once you have the people, time, and place figured out, you will want to plan your conversation. Having a loose plan can ensure you feel prepared and more at ease.
You don’t have to have everything figured out when you break the news. You can simply share the reality of your situation, any pregnancy details (like how far along you are), and the options you are currently considering.
Your family may have mixed reactions to your pregnancy and your thoughts on potential options like abortion, but this stage is about informing them more than debating with them or trying to win them over. You simply want them to know what’s going on in your life.
You might also consider sharing what support you need or expect during this time and how they can help you. Sometimes, family members won’t know what to do unless you tell them, especially when the situation is new or unexpected.
Receive Support in a Confidential Setting
We understand how difficult an unexpected pregnancy and sharing the news can be, and we’re here to help. Schedule a free-of-charge appointment to confirm your pregnancy and receive support in a safe space.
Your privacy matters to us. We are here to listen and be a resource for you during this time.