Telling your boyfriend and family you are pregnant can feel daunting. However, once you tell them, you no longer have to keep a secret, which can be a relief.
Here are a few tips for how to tell your loved ones you’re pregnant.
1. Think About the Situation
Before you craft your plan to share the news, think through the situation. How might each person react? Is there a chance of violence, outbursts, or other safety concerns?
You want to prepare for anything that could go wrong. If you’re concerned for your safety, your plan might include telling them in a public place or over the phone. You may also consider bringing another person with you.
If ever needed, you can call the National Domestic Abuse Hotline for help. You deserve to feel safe and secure. There’s no excuse for physical, emotional, or verbal abuse.
2. Pick the Setting
Once you have assessed the situation and taken any necessary safety precautions, it’s time to plan the logistics. First, start with the setting.
Where do your family or partner feel most comfortable or at ease? Is it in the living room or around the kitchen table? Maybe it’s during an activity like walking or casually watching a show.
If the answer for each party differs, tell them separately. This may also help them feel comfortable expressing their true thoughts, feelings, and reactions.
3. Wait for the Right Timing
While there may never be a perfect time, wait until you have a time when no one is in a rush to get to work or school. You also want their full attention, so avoid times when they are very preoccupied or focused on something else.
Use your best judgment when selecting the time. It can make a difference in how they receive the news and allow time for them to ask questions and discuss it.
4. Plan Your Responses
While you don’t have to have your pregnancy and next steps completely figured out at this point, planning your responses can help you prepare and put you more at ease.
Think about the questions they may ask you and craft your best, honest responses. You can even plan to set boundaries, like reminding your family and partner that while you respect their opinions, it’s important that you decide for yourself.
It’s also okay to say “I don’t know” when you don’t have an answer. This pregnancy is major news for you, too, and you can take the time you need to process and decide what you will do.
Are You Sure You’re Pregnant?
Before sharing the news of your pregnancy, verify your pregnancy results at Pathways Clinic.
We offer pregnancy testing and ultrasounds (if a Pathways Registered Nurse determines you’re eligible) so you can be 100% certain before you share with your partner and family. All of our services are free of charge.
Schedule your appointment today! You can also ask questions and receive helpful information regarding your pregnancy options and resources.